Jealousy Hub
How to conquer jealousy and comparison anxiety
Overwhelmed with panic? Don't know how to cope with your insecurities? This hub will help you manage unehalthy jealousy, stop overanalyzing, calm the panic and regain trust in your relationships.
✔ Understand the psychology behind jealousy & comparison anxiety
✔ Learn why jealousy spirals and how to break free from destructive patterns
✔ Get expert CBT strategies, mindfulness tools & hypnosis support
✔ Take control of overthinking & emotional triggers before they take over your lif
Worried in case jealousy has become unhealthy and is controlling you.
What you’ll find here
📖 What is Jealousy? – The psychology behind jealousy & comparison anxiety
📖 Is Jealousy Natural or Learned? – The science of why we feel jealous
📖 The Impact of Social Media – How comparison culture fuels jealousy
📖 Signs of Unhealthy Jealousy – Recognizing when jealousy becomes toxic
📖 Jealousy Disorders – Understanding the spectrum of obsessive jealousy
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🛠 Healing Tools – The Island of Safety Hypnosis (free audio download!)
Top tip 1: Jealousy thrives on uncertainty & incomplete information. It can spiral into obsessive thoughts, paranoia, and insecurity that damage trust and self-worth.
Top Tip 2: Doesn’t everyone feel jealous? Yes, but if you’re here, it may be controlling you (or your partner).
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What is jealousy?
What is the definition of jealousy?
Jealousy is a powerful, primal emotion that occurs if we believe someone threatens our relationship. Jealousy is not just one, simple feeling - it’s a complex mix of many emotions, including:
✔ Fear (of losing your partner)
✔ Anger (at perceived betrayal)
✔ Sadness (feeling “not enough”)
✔ Panic and terror
When jealousy takes over, it floods the mind with suspicious and obsessive thoughts and triggers physical symptoms like:
✔ Racing heart
✔ Nausea or feeling sick
✔ Dissociation or numbness
✔ Tightness in the throat or choking sensation
Jealousy is anxiety-driven. If left unchecked, it can completely take over your thoughts and emotions.
The difference between envy and jealousy
There is a difference between jealousy and envy. I believe R. Leahy, has the best definition of jealousy vs envy. Jealousy always involves a real or perceived threat to a relationship. Envy arises because we want something someone else has, such as a car, intelligence or good looks. Our perceived lack (of wealth, intelligence or good looks). this is preventing us from achieving what we want
Is jealousy natural or learned?
It’s natural for us to feel jealous in a relationship - it surfaces when we feel our relationship is threatened. Jealousy is deeply rooted in our evolutionary biology. Even animals experience jealousy (studies on monkeys show jealousy when their partners interact with others).
Men and women are affected by jealousy in different ways:
🔹 Men: Jealousy ensures genes continue (their genetic survival).
They are more triggered by infidelity.
🔹 Women: Jealousy ensures emotional commitment & resources
resources (to bring up a family). They're triggered by lack of commitment.
What causes us to feel jealous?
How comparison anxiety fuels jealousy
Social media and jealousy
Social conditioning has a big impact on how we respond to jealousy. Our past experiences and cultural influences also shape how we react. Jealousy can now trigger for these reasons:
✓ Social Media Exposure – Constant updates on an ex’s life or partner’s interactions fuel comparison anxiety.
✓ Online Dating Culture – The ease of meeting new people online creates fear of being replaced.
✓ FOMO & Idealized Relationships – Social media glamourises our lives making real-life issues feel worse.
✓ Increased Independence – Modern relationships have fewer social constraints, making trust more crucial than ever.
✓ 24/7 Connectivity – The expectation of instant replies can create unnecessary suspicion.
Key takeaway
Jealousy is a normal emotional response. Social media conditioning has encouraged comparison anxiety. This makes it difficult to respond in a balanced way to our natural jealousy triggers - meaning we are and more likely to experience unhealthy jealousy. This can destroys trust, happiness and, ultimately. our relationship.
Signs of unhealthy jealousy in a relationship
Jealousy triggers when we believe there's a relationship threat and we don't have enough information. it is anxiety driven. If not checked, it can thinking can spiral into destructive behaviors. jealousy kicks in when we can't ignore our suspicious thoughts - each text, glance, or social media post fuels our endless search for “proof.” The more jealous we become, the more proof we need. Ultimately no level of reassurance is enough.
Unhealthy jealousy signs
Surveillance & Invasion of Privacy
🔹 Checking a partner’s phone, emails, or social media without consent.
🔹 Secretly tracking their location, monitoring them online, or using hidden cameras.
🔹 Filming or recording a partner without their knowledge or permission.
Interrogation & Emotional Pressure
🔹 Persistently questioning a partner’s whereabouts, past, or interactions.
🔹 Forcing a partner to “prove” their loyalty with excessive explanations.
Controlling & Manipulative Behavior
🔹 Dictating who a partner can see, talk to, or spend time with.
🔹 Restricting access to friends, family, or work.
🔹 Using guilt, threats, or ultimatums to control their actions.
Public & Social Attacks
🔹 Posting accusations, private messages, or jealousy-fueled claims online.
🔹 Using social media to shame, track, or intimidate a partner.
Stalking & Harassment
🔹 Following a partner without consent or showing up uninvited.
🔹 Repeatedly calling, messaging, or showing up at their home or workplace.
Escalating Aggression & Violence
🔹 Threats, intimidation, or coercive control.
🔹 Physical aggression or property damage due to jealousy-driven rage.
If you’re experiencing extreme jealousy from your partner, you may want to explore how this can overlap with controlling behaviors. If you feel emotionally drained, anxious, or afraid, my trauma recovery page provides support and information.
Recognizing these behaviors is crucial. If left unchecked, jealousy damages both partners and creates emotional distress.
If jealousy is affecting your relationship, addressing it through open communication, self-reflection, and professional support can help rebuild trust and emotional security
Comparing types of jealousy
disorders
What is retroactive jealousy? This is jealousy that focuses on a partner’s past not their current behavior. There is no current threat. Both partners know there is no real threat.
Signs: need constant reassurance, compulsive checking, resentment, comparison anxiety.
Related health issues: Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) or general anxiety disorder (GAD).
Risk: Low to medium
What is delusional jealousy or 'Othello Syndrome'? This is fantasy based. Have a shakeable belief in guilt even when evidence to the contrary given
Signs: Extreme accusations and beliefs. Demands constant reassurance, compulsive checking and intrusive thoughts.
Related health issues: Paranoia, schizophrenia, psychotic disorders, borderline personality disorder Substance abuse.
Risk: ⚠️ High. Can lead to stalking and violence
What is obsessional jealousy? Partner has suspicions and doubt about the other's fidelity. Both partners know there is no real threat Thoughts are intrusive and irrational.
Signs: needs constant reassurance, compulsive checking and intrusive thoughts.
Related health issues: Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) or general anxiety disorder (GAD). attachment disorder.
Risk: Low to medium
What is pathological jealousy or morbod jealousy? A psychological disorder. An controlling obsession about sexual infidelity. It is intense, controlling and possessive.
Signs: intimidation, controlling, aggression, coercive behaviour
Related mental health issues: Paranoia, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and borderline personality disorder.
Risk: ⚠️ High. Often leads to stalking, narcissistic abuse, violence
Struggling with panic attacks?
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Break free from jealousy
If jealousy is running your life, you’re not alone. There are proven, research-backed ways, such as CBT that have been proven to retrain your mind and build emotional security.
The key is to commit to change - no matter what. Be prepated to try things out, and stick with what works for you.
1. Four CBT strategies to overcome jealousy
Use Logic
Write down 3 reasons why you know you can trust your partner. Give examples if you can
Trusted Friend
Speak to a trusted friend who will tell you the truth - not just what you want to hear.
Journal Facts
Journal your 'proof'. Commit to including the proof that doesn't support your belief
Ground Yourself
Ground yourself. Count back from 200. Suck an ice cube or hold it in your hand.
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2. Experiment with the power of hypnosis
Imagine yourself on a safe, peaceful island, the 'island o f Safety' far far away from the storm of jealousy. Through hypnosis, you can start to rewire the mind to release jealousy thoughts and emotions build trust.
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