Divorce Anxiety
Gain
inner
resilience
“I’m divorced and with a wonderful new partner—so why do I feel so terrified all the time?” or, "I am so relieved we are finally getting divorced, why do I keep crying?" If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. So what is divorce anxiety? It is a form of anxiety that is rarely mention. It relates to fears, upset, confusion and panic connected to a past relationship, separation, or breakup. This can often feel overwhelming and life-disrupting, even when conflict is minimal. The emotional turmoil can ripple through every aspect of your life, not just during the separation and may continue for months or even years
What many do not realise is that all relationships breakups brings confusion, the surfacing of unresolved emotions and lingering challenges, such as navigating financial agreements or managing shared parenting responsibilities. Maybe you’re still in the thick of it - dealing with constant disputes, untangling legal complexities, or months have past and oyu are struggling to set boundaries with your ex or work our contact arrangements. These ongoing stresses can spill over into new relationships, making it hard to fully trust, feel secure, or move on.. Wherever you find yourself, my approach blends emotional healing with practical strategies. Together, we’ll help you regain clarity, rebuild your confidence, and move forward in your career, family, and relationships.
My blended therapy and legal approach
I offer a unique combination of skills as both a relationship therapist and a former City litigation solicitor. This is enhanced by personal lived experience - I spent 6-years navigating the family courts in a high-conflict, coercive environment. Now a therapist, I use my blend of legal knowledge, therapeutic healing and lived experience to :
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help you interpret complex legal jargon and effectively navigate your solicitor’s advice such as negotiating safe and effective contact arrangements for young children.
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provide you with CBT tools and other evidenced backed techniques to manage the intense stress of divorce anxiety, the court system and the unexpected challenges it can bring. Emotional regulation tools ensure that you are better placed to and manage emotional overwhelm and ultimately heal. Become resilient to life's stressors.
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truly understand the practical and emotional reality of what you are going through, and show you that it is possible to let go of resentment, grief and pain to find peace and renewed purpose.
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Life after divorce
Once the divorce is over, it can be difficult to work out who we are or what we want. We often find that we have become conditioned to think of ourselves as part of a couple and now being single there is no purpose or vision. Our values and goals (now as a single person) often have changed - we often feel confused or unclear who we areally are. Perhaps planning a future as a single person feels meaningless or terrifying.
Life challenges and change create an opportunity for us to re-discover who we are, refine our goals and values and so realign with what we really want. I can help you navigate this path of self-exploration, reconnect with your authentic self, and welcome joy and peace back into your life.
How therapy can transform
your divorce journey
Guidance through legal transitions
My background as a litigation solicitor enables me to understand the pressures of divorce, interpret legal jargon and enable you to navigate divorce and breakup more smoothly
Building your emotional resilience
Divorce and break up can leave emotional scars. You need to gain the right support to process grief, manage anxiety and build confidence for your future relationships.
Regeneration of your emotional landscape
Feeling emotionally supported, validated and empowered is essential for you to make the best choices for yourself and your family/children. This may involve boundary, values and goal setting.
Rebuilding trust in yourself and others
After the end of a relationship, even if it is not turbulent or abusive, trust can be broken. Not just with others but yourself. Therapy helps restore confidence and enables you to trust your instincts and decisions again.