Divorce cmudging ceremony

Divorce is a process of release and renewal—letting go of the past to create space for a stronger future. A smudging stick divorce ceremony can help clear out the emotional residue of your marriage and invite in resilience and clarity. This ritual is a way to let go of your marriage with compassion, reset your energy and build a bridge to the life you want.

 

You will need:

• A smudging stick (sage, cedar, or palo santo)

• A lighter or matches

• Paper, scissors and pen

• Two fireproof bowls

• A quiet space where you won’t be disturbed

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What do you Want to Clear?

• Write down all the words and phrases that no longer serve you. This can be things within your or your ex eg 'Aggression,' 'Fear,' 'Mean with money,' 'Guilt about leaving.' 

• You may find this bring up emotions. Let them pass through you - don't hold them in. This is a cleansing time

• Cut each word or phrase out, fold it up and put it in one of the fire proof dishes - 'the Divorce Bowl'. Make sure that it is high sides and that the paper does not come up more than half way

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Prepare Your Mind​

• Sit quietly with your eyes shut and take three deep breaths.

• Set a positive intention - such as 'I want to release my partner with love, and let us both free'

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Prepare Your Space:

• Light the smudging stick and let it catch fire briefly before blowing it out to produce smoke.

• As the smoke rises, hold the intention of clearing away what no longer serves you.

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Prepare for the Divorce.

• Now light the paper in the divorce bowl. You can either light each piece - then blow it out. Or light them all at once.

• Watch the divorce fire greedily feed on the paper and the oxygen - and then naturally fade away to ashes. It's a natural process. That is what will happen to your divorce. It will be fuelled with energy and then die out - one that allows new beginnings.

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Now:

 

1. Facing North: Cast Out Heavy Emotions 

 

Stand facing North.

• Move the smudging stick in slow circles around yourself.

• As the smoke rises, breathe deeply and imagine it drawing out the heavy emotions—grief, anger, guilt, and fear.

• Silently or aloud, say:

  “I release all emotions that weigh me down. I let go of guilt, anger, and grief.”

• Visualize these emotions leaving your body, dissolving into the smoke.

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2. Facing South: Release Painful Memories 

 

Turn to the South.

• Guide the smoke over your heart and head, imagining it absorbing painful memories - arguments, betrayals, moments of loneliness.

• Say:

  “I release the past. I let go of memories that no longer serve me."

• See these memories lifting away, carried by the wind.

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3. Facing East: Invite in Resilience 

 

Turn to the East—the direction of new beginnings.

• Sweep the smoke over your body with an open palm, inviting in lightness and resilience.

• Say:

“I welcome resilience, strength, and clarity. I am ready to re-bu8ild my mind, body and soul.”

• Visualize golden light filling the space where old emotions once were - warm, empowering and calming.

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4. Facing West: Create a Bridge to Your Future 

 

Turn to the West—the direction of transformation.

• Let the smoke encircle you, imagining it building a bridge from where you are now to the future you want.

• Say:

“I create a bridge to a compelling future— and to transform my life with peace, freedom and purpose.”

• Visualize stepping onto this bridge—strong, sure, and ready to move forward. The path ahead glows softly, inviting you to take the next step with confidence.