Jealousy & Trust Monster: Repair Trust & Find Freedom
Why does a lack of trust matter?
​Why is a lack of trust so detrimental to relationships? A lack of trust is often a highly destructive force to relationships that can leading to a lack of openness, increased suspicion and jealousy, frequent fights arguments and emotional distance between partners. This results in feelings of loneliness, confusion and isolation on both sides. Communication breakdowns become common, misunderstandings increase, and resentment builds up, making the relationship challenging to sustain without directly addressing or repairing trust issues. ​
Common signs of trust issues
in a relationship
Overwhelm
Fear of being trapped or overwhelmed in a relationship. Even feeling identity loss.
Unreliability
Struggling to trust due to your partner's unreliability or inconsistency?
Threats to leave
Chronic fear of abandonment or rejection so can't trust. Would rather end a relationship first.
Can't open up
Difficulty opening up and sharing what really matters so relationship stagnates.
The jealousy monster that can't be satisfied
Jealousy, often referred to as the 'green-eyed monster', thrives on uncertainty and incomplete information. Its hunger can never truly be satisfied as we can never know everything for sure. Each new piece of information - texts, glances, or social media posts - becomes fuel for obsessive scrutiny, and sends us on an endless search for “proof.” The more obsessive jealousy becomes, the more commitment it demands from us, creating a vicious cycle. We becomes trapped in its clutches, as no level of reassurance is enough. This is how jealousy hijacks our thoughts, relationships and sanity.
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Jealousy Hijacking: When Thoughts Become Obsessions
It drives us to seek certainty, pushing back on our partner, interrogating them mercilessly your partner or demanding endless reassurance. These behaviors may provide temporary relief, but they ultimately reinforce the obsession, leaving us more entrenched in mistrust and anxiety
Is jealousy inherently bad?
Jealousy is not inherently bad - it’s a natural emotion deeply rooted in our evolutionary biology. For men, jealousy historically ensured their paternity, driving the need for fidelity to confirm their children were truly theirs. For women, jealousy focused on emotional attachment and the need for their partner’s commitment to family, ensuring protection and resources for raising children. These instincts made sense for survival. In modern relationships, this can become maladaptive. Understanding jealousy as a natural reaction allows us to approach it with compassion, creating space to explore healthier responses and keeping jealousy in its rightful place.
Rewiring the jealous mind
Jealousy is a complex emotional cocktail, blending fear, anger, sadness and insecurity. Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a powerful and solutions driven tool for overcoming jealousy and rebuilding trust. It targets the thoughts, emotions and behaviors that trigger it. CBT helps us unpack and challenge unhelpful patterns that drive jealousy, such as catastrophic thinking (“If they text someone else, it means they’ll leave me”) or mind-reading (“I know they’re attracted to someone else”). CBT helps us rewire your emotional responses (that have become hypervigilant), allowing us to approach situations with clarity and calmness. This approach swiftly empowers, enabling us to reclaim control transform relationships and restore peace to the doubting and jealous mind.
