Loneliness Home Makeover

Reclaim your space after separation

When your partner leaves, it can trigger grief, confusion, and fear - that makes your home feel overwhelming and full of pain. Creating a home makeover strategy can help you reclaim your space and reduce the intensity of emotional triggers. These small but powerful changes can make your home feel lighter, safer, and more like yours.

Remove Visual Triggers

• Take down all photos of your partner or ones taken by them. This helps to minimize emotional flashbacks and prevent sudden waves of sadness.

• Pack away any objects they’ve given you—gifts, letters, or personal items. Store them out of sight to create mental space for your own energy.

• Display new items that aren’t connected to your partner—plants, new books, or artwork that reflect your interests and growth.

Rearrange Your Space

The goal is to create a fresh perspective—making the space feel new and yours alone

• Rearrange the lounge and bedroom furniture. Even small shifts can help break the mental connection to past memories of being together.

• Move your bed to a different spot, angle the sofa differently, or swap decorative items between rooms.

Change the Atmosphere

• Throw a different-colored throw over the bed—preferably in a shade that makes you feel calm or empowered (like soft blues for peace or warm oranges for energy).

• Replace old cushions, bed linens, or even curtains if possible—textures and colors can shift your mood significantly. Soft blankets and fluffy pillow can feel reassuring.

• Listen to music that you did not listen to with your partner.

Create a Safe, Calming Space

• Add soft lighting with lamps, candles or fairy lights to create a cozy and safe atmosphere.

• Diffuse essential oils like lavender or bergamot to help ease anxiety and create a feeling of emotional safety.

Bring in Nature

• Place plants or fresh flowers around your home. Greenery is proven to reduce stress and improve mood.

• Consider a small indoor water feature—the sound of water can be incredibly soothing during emotional turmoil.