Relationship Conflict
...resolve communication blocks
Is it really possible to have an intimate relationship that works, or is that just for the movies? The truth is, with the right tools and understanding, it’s absolutely achievable. My approach is practical, evidence-based and avoids unnecessary deep dives into the past. It’s an effective first step toward relationship repair and healing.
Conflict in relationships can feel exhausting, especially when behaviors like stonewalling, criticism, dismissiveness, or constant interruptions dominate. These patterns create emotional confusion, erode connection and can leave you feeling like your partner is a stranger. But recognizing and addressing these dynamics is the first step to building clarity, repairing the relationship and fostering a deeper connection.
Why relationship wounds needs healing
Did you know that most relationships don't end as one party has an affair, they end as one or other party gives up trying. Relationship conflict creates wounds that foster feelings of mistrust, insecurity and emotional distance, making it difficult to enjoy relationship depth and relationship stability. I use CBT and practical evidenced backed tools, such as those developed by Dr. Julie and Dr. John Gottman, to help tackle core issues and relationship wounds such as how to deal with a defensive partner, communication breakdowns, emotional disconnection, how to overcome stonewalling, how to stop being so critical and rebuild trust. This is what I call developing 'love literacy.' Whether you're facing challenges with a current partner or seeking peace from past relationships, this approach can help you resolve relationship conflict swiftly.
Six steps to love literacy -
relationship repair tools
1. The Four Horseman
tge first step is being able to identify common destructive patterns that erode relationships.
4. Love Literacy
Our partners can show their love in different ways. Develop love literacy and understand their love gifts.
2. Positive Magic
Focus on the positive. Add humour and kindness to creates relationship resilience and trust.
5. Building Love Maps
Building love maps creates intimacy as we deepen our understanding of each other's worlds,
3. Turning Towards
From gentle start ups to noting the smallest gesture, there are so many ways to take the heat out of conflict.
6. Creating Rituals
Having shared time and shares visions and goals nurtures a joint sense of purpose and unity.
Can I repair the relationship by myself?
Whether you have been in a difficult part relationship or your current relationship shows signs of strain, it is always a good time to become love literate and learn how to master relationship repair.
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This is a life skill. It increases self awareness leading to more meaningful and helpful interactions
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Modelling positive behaviour can encourage reciprocation
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Handling conflict calmly engenders emotional resilience
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It will create a healthier dynamic - it takes two to create a conflict
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Fosters trust and stability, inviting the other party to engage more deeply
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The foundations can be used in all relationships - including family members and at work
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