Jealousy Test
Is jealousy sabotaging your relationship?
Is jealousy affecting your relationship?
Find out how jealousy could be affecting your thoughts, emotions, and actions? Take this 10-question self-test to see where your relationship stands.
Instructions: Choose the option that best describes how you feel in your relationship.
1. I feel anxious when my partner spends their free time with others instead of me.
☐ A. No, I fully trust them.
☐ B. Rarely, but it doesn’t bother me much.
☐ C. Sometimes, I overthink it.
☐ D. Often, I feel uneasy and insecure.
☐ E. Always, it causes major anxiety
2. I frequently compare myself to my partner’s exes and friends.
☐ A. No, I feel confident in my relationship.
☐ B. Occasionally, but it doesn’t impact me.
☐ C. Sometimes, I wonder if they were “better.”
☐ D. Often, I feel like I need to compete.
☐ E. Always, I obsess over their past relationships all the time.
3. I never check my partner’s phone or social media - it’s private.
☐ A. I respect their privacy. Nothing would breach that.
☐ B. I would check only if something felt “off.”
☐ C. I check occasionally -just to see who they’re following.
☐ D. Often, I feel uneasy unless I see what they’re doing.
☐ E. Always, I check regularly because I don’t trust them.
. I don't ever check my partner’s phone or social media - that's private
4. I have pushed my partner when they wouldn’t tell me where they were or who they were with.
☐ A. Never—I would never touch my partner.
☐ B. We’ve pushed and jostled each other, but nothing serious.
☐ C. I’ve pushed them when I was really mad—it frustrates me when they shut down.
☐ D. Often, I get obsessed with what they’re doing and where they are.
☐ E. I do get physical—I can’t control my emotions when I feel insecure.
5. I feel stressed or panicky when my partner doesn’t respond to my texts quickly.
☐ A. No, I don’t really notice. They have their reasons.
☐ B. Not unless it’s important.
☐ C. Sometimes—it’s rude, and I deserve more attention.
☐ D. Often, my mind spirals into worst-case scenarios.
☐ E. Always, I keep texting until I get a reply because I feel abandoned
6. I analyze my partner’s behavior, looking for ‘signs’ of disloyalty.
☐ A. No, I don’t overthink things.
☐ B. Rarely, only if something really stands out.
☐ C. Sometimes, I keep mental notes on their actions.
☐ D. Often, I replay conversations and body language in my head.
☐ E. Always, I overanalyze everything and accuse them of being sneaky.
7. I get stressed and angry when my partner doesn't respond quickly?
☐ A. No, I don’t worry about it.
☐ B. Rarely, only when there’s a good reason.
☐ C. Sometimes, this really triggers me.
☐ D. Often, I obsess over what they’re doing and who they’re with.
☐ E. Always, if I don’t know exactly what’s happening, I feel panicky and shaky.
8. I see my partner talking and laughing with someone attractive. I would need them to reassure me they are not going to leave me.
☐ A. No, I wouldn’t think about infidelity unless I saw clear proof.
☐ B. I haven’t accused them, but I do have doubts sometimes.
☐ C. I’ve done it before, but not often.
☐ D. Often - when I don’t know something, I assume the worst.
☐ E. Always - we fight about this all the time, and I keep looking for proof.
9. Have you ever accused your partner of being unfaithful without definite evidence?
☐ A. Never, I respect their privacy.
☐ B. Only if something seems strange.
☐ C. Sometimes - I do it just to put my mind at ease.
☐ D. Often - I feel uneasy unless I check.
☐ E. Always - I need to know everything they do, or I panic.
10. Have you ever secretly checked their emails, texts, or location?
☐ A. Never, I respect their privacy.
☐ B. Only if something seems strange.
☐ C. Sometimes—I do it just to put my mind at ease.
☐ D. Often—I feel uneasy unless I check.
☐ E. Always—I need to know everything they do, or I panic.
How to Interpret Your Score:
🔹 Mostly A’s - You have a strong sense of trust. Jealousy isn’t a big issue for you.
🔹 Mostly B’s – You experience occasional jealousy, but it doesn’t control your actions.
🔹 Mostly C’s – Jealousy is affecting your thoughts, and you may struggle with comparison anxiety.
🔹 Mostly D’s – Jealousy is significantly impacting your relationship. You may need strategies to regain emotional balance.
🔹 Mostly E’s – Your jealousy is controlling your emotions and behavior. Consider professional support to restore trust and inner security.
If you have scored mostly C's - E's, visit the Jealousy and Sabotage Self-Help Hubs to find out more facts & stats about your issues, as well as expert insights and tips to heal.
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