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Overcoming Court Anxiety 
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Whether you’re facing a divorce hearing, financial dispute, or custody battle, the pressure of legal proceedings can trigger stress, panic, and emotional overwhelm.

 

If you find yourself losing sleep, overthinking worst-case scenarios, or feeling physically ill from the stress of a court case, you’re not alone. Court stress is real—but you can manage it.

 

This guide will show you practical, evidence-based ways to stay calm, clear-headed, and

confident before, during, and after your court case.

 

The guide is useful for those facing the family court system in England & Wales. It should not be treated as legal advice, nor should it override your lawyer's advice - and is given for information purposes only.

 

1. Mental Preparation: be ready for anything

 

• Familiarize Yourself with Court Documents – Read everything carefully so you’re

not caught off guard.

• Understand Legal Jargon – If legal terms confuse you, work with a lawyer or

divorce coach to break them down.

• Prepare What You Will Say – Write down key points so you don’t forget anything

important.

• Think of It Like an Interview – Practice possible cross-examination questions in

advance.

• Rehearse Your Answers – Ask a friend, lawyer, or coach to help you role-play

tough questions so you feel ready.


2. Face Your Fears - Overcome Panic Attacks

 

• If you struggle with panic, practice deep breathing (in through the nose and out through the nose

• Get used to nose breathing through the day

• Listen to my Stop Panic Audio – which you can find in Your Resources on my website, www.themindfullpractice.com

• Practice grounding techniques ahead of time.

 

3. Emotional Preparation:

 

• Work on CBT techniques before your court date to reduce panic and overthinking.

• Accept Uncertainty – You don’t control the judge’s decision, but you can control

your mindset. Work on mindfulness techniques.

• Prepare for Social Anxiety – If facing people in court feels overwhelming, practice

staying composed in conversations.

• Reduce Overwhelm – Focus on mental preparation to keep your thoughts

organized and calm.

 

4. Physical Preparation

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• Plan Your Route to Court – Practice the journey beforehand so you know exactly

where you’re going.

• Bring a Support Person – A friend or family member can offer emotional

reassurance.

• Dress the Part – Wear neutral, professional, and muted colors to present yourself

confidently.

• Arrive 60 Minutes Early – The court won’t wait for you. Arriving early also allows

time to speak with your lawyer before the hearing.

• Acting for Yourself? – If self-representing, you can bring a McKenzie Friend (a

non-legal support person). They cannot speak for you but can help keep you

organized

 

5. Day In Court:

 

• Use an Anchor Thought – Remind yourself: “I am prepared. I can handle this.”

• Stay Neutral & Composed – The court observes your behavior. If you react angrily, the opposing barrister can claim you are naturally reactive, which may work against you in cases involving children.

• Respect the Judge & Legal Counsel – Do not interrupt, argue, or speak out of turn. Remain polite and address the judge respectfully.

• Keep Answers Short & Concise – Answer only what is asked. Do not elaborate unless required.

• Stay Consistent with Details – When referring to dates, times, and events, make sure your answers remain exactly the same throughout the hearing.

• Pause Before Answering – Take 3 seconds to breathe before responding—this gives you time to stay calm and collected.

• If you do panic, tell the court that you are finding this difficult and a little stressful. They judge may well give you a recess to cope with the situation

• Buy Time if Needed – If you need a moment, ask the barrister to repeat the question rather than rushing your response.

• Calm Anchor Thought – “I am prepared. I can handle this.”

 

6. Final Thought: Preparation = Confidence

 

Court stress is real, but you CAN prepare mentally, emotionally, and physically to stay

composed and in control. With these tools, you’ll feel stronger, calmer, and more strategic in handling the process.

 

You Can Do This

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