Quiz: What's Your Conflict Style?

Instructions: For each statement, rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 5, where:

1 = Strongly Disagree | 2 = Disagree | 3 = Neutral | 4 = Agree | 5 = Strongly Agree

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Section 1: Emotional Reactions to Conflict

 

1. When conflict arises, I feel an immediate sense of dread or panic.

2. I tend to avoid arguments at all costs, even if it means not standing up for myself.

3. I replay arguments in my head long after they happen.

4. My heart races, and I feel tense when someone disagrees with me.

5. I find it difficult to think clearly when conflict escalates.

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Total Score for Section 1: ____ / 25

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Section 2: Conflict Management Style

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6. I prefer to keep the peace rather than express how I really feel.

7. I struggle to set boundaries because I don’t want to upset others.

8. If someone raises their voice, I either shut down or become defensive.

9. I often agree with people just to avoid conflict, even if I don’t mean it.

10. When conflict happens, I feel like I need to “win” to feel secure.

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Total Score for Section 2: ____ / 25

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Section 3: Thought Patterns About Conflict

 

11. I believe conflict always leads to damaged relationships.

12. I worry about how others perceive me after a disagreement.

13. I assume that if someone is upset, it’s my fault.

14. I feel like conflict is a sign that something is “wrong” in the relationship.

15. I worry that speaking up will make people abandon or reject me.

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📝 Total Score for Section 3: ____ / 25

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Section 4: Coping Strategies & Resolution Skills

 

16. I have techniques I use to stay calm when conflict arises.

17. I can communicate my needs without becoming overwhelmed.

18. I can handle disagreements without feeling personally attacked.

19 I believe conflict can be productive if handled correctly.

20. I can listen to different perspectives without feeling defensive.

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Scoring & Summary What It Means

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If you want your score and my analysis:​​