Commitment Quiz
Should I stay or should I go?
Is commitment anxiety stopping you moving forward?
Find out how commitment anxiety could be affecting your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Take this 10-question self-test to see where your relationship stands.
Instructions: Choose the option that best describes how you feel in your relationship.
Instructions: Choose the option that best describes how you feel in your relationship.
1. I feel unsure when my partner talks about long-term plans (like moving in or marriage)
☐ A. No, I’m excited about our future together.
☐ B. Rarely, but I can handle it.
☐ C. Sometimes, I start to overthink.
☐ D. Often, I feel uneasy and avoid the topic.
☐ E. Always, I panic or try to change the subject.
2. I avoid labeling our relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend, partner, etc.)
☐ A. No, I’m clear about what we are.
☐ B. Rarely, but it doesn’t bother me much.
☐ C. Sometimes, I feel uncertain.
☐ D. Often, I prefer to keep things vague.
☐ E. Always, I refuse to label it at all.
3. I feel suffocated when I spend too much time with my partner.
☐ A. No, I love being together.
☐ B. Rarely, only if I’m stressed.
☐ C. Sometimes, I need more space.
☐ D. Often, I avoid seeing them too much.
☐ E. Always, I need to escape often.
4. I worry about making the wrong choice and being stuck in a bad relationship.
☐ A. No, I trust my decisions.
☐ B. Rarely, but it crosses my mind.
☐ C. Sometimes, I overthink my choices.
☐ D. Often, it keeps me from moving forward.
☐ E. Always, I can’t commit to anything.
5. I keep the idea of leaving in the back of my mind—just in case.
☐ A. No, I’m all in.
☐ B. Rarely, but I’m realistic.
☐ C. Sometimes, I feel unsure.
☐ D. Often, I think about it a lot.
☐ E. Always, I plan my exit regularly.
6. I’ve ended relationships suddenly when things got too serious.
☐ A. No, I try to work things out.
☐ B. Rarely, only when necessary.
☐ C. Sometimes, I’ve panicked and ended things.
☐ D. Often, I leave when it gets real.
☐ E. Always, I end things before they start.
7. I find it hard to talk about feelings or future plans with my partner.
☐ A. No, I’m open about everything.
☐ B. Rarely, but it depends on the topic.
☐ C. Sometimes, I feel exposed.
☐ D. Often, I shut down or change the subject.
☐ E. Always, I avoid these talks completely.
8. I see my partner talking and laughing with someone attractive. I would need them to reassure me they are not going to leave me.
☐ A. No, I’m disappointed.
☐ B. Rarely, if I’m exhausted.
☐ C. Sometimes, I’m secretly relieved.
☐ D. Often, I prefer it when they’re busy.
☐ E. Always, I feel free when they cancel.
9. Have you ever accused your partner of being unfaithful without definite evidence?
☐ A. Never, I respect their privacy.
☐ B. Only if something seems strange.
☐ C. Sometimes - I do it just to put my mind at ease.
☐ D. Often - I feel uneasy unless I check.
☐ E. Always - I need to know everything they do, or I panic.
10. Have you ever secretly checked their emails, texts, or location?
☐ A. No, I feel secure and excited.
☐ B. Rarely, only if I’m stressed.
☐ C. Sometimes, I get anxious.
☐ D. Often, I want to escape the conversation.
☐ E. Always, I feel suffocated and panicked.
How to Interpret Your Score:
• 🔹 Mostly A’s: You’re secure in your relationship - commitment anxiety isn’t a concern.
• 🔹 Mostly B’s: You have occasional doubts but nothing significant.
• 🔹 Mostly C’s: You may struggle with commitment anxiety at times. Explore the Commitment Anxiety Hub for tips.
• 🔹 Mostly D’s: Commitment anxiety is significantly impacting your relationship. You may benefit from support.
• 🔹 Mostly E’s: Commitment anxiety is controlling your decisions. Prioritise one-to-one professional help for deeper healing.
If you have scored mostly C's - E's, visit the Commitment and Sabotage Self-Help Hubs to find out more facts & stats about your issues, as well as expert insights and tips to heal.
If you want a more personalised approach, then book a free session with me.
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