Relationship Conflict
...and how to heal relationship wounds
Is it possible to have an intimate relationship that works, or is that just for the movies? It is certainly possible. I take a pragmatic, evidenced-backed approach that does not require a therapeutic deep dive. It's a great first step to relationship repair and healing.
Why relationship wounds need healing
Most relationships don't end as one party has an affair, they die as one or each party gives up trying. Over 80% of relationships breakdown are caused by 'death of a thousand cuts' not one partner committing adultery. When left, relationship conflict creates wounds that foster feelings of mistrust, insecurity and emotional distance, making it difficult to enjoy relationship depth and relationship stability. Practical tools, such as those developed by Dr. Julie and Dr. John Gottman, can help tackle core issues such as how to deal with communication breakdowns, emotional disconnection and how to rebuild trust. Whether you're facing challenges with a current partner or seeking peace from past relationships, this approach can help you address root causes of relationship anxiety and rebuild emotional safety.
Relationship repair tools
Building Love Maps
Creates intimacy as you deepen your understanding of each other's worlds,
Positive Magic
Focusing on the positive and adding humour and kindness creates couple resilience and trust.
Creating Rituals
Having shared time and shares visions and goals nurtures a joint sense of purpose and unity.
Turning Towards
From gentle start ups to noting the smallest gesture, there are so many ways to take the heat out of conflict.
The Four Horseman
You will learn how to identify common destructive patterns that erode relationships.
Love Literacy
Often partners show their love in different ways. Develop love literacy and understand their gift to you.
Can I repair the relationship by myself?
Whether you have been in a difficult part relationship or your current relationship shows signs of strain, it is always a good time to become love literate and learn how to master relationship repair.
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This is a life skill. It increases self awareness leading to more meaningful and helpful interactions
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Modelling positive behaviour can encourage reciprocation
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Handling conflict calmly engenders emotional resilience
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It will create a healthier dynamic - it takes two to create a conflict
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Fosters trust and stability, inviting the other party to engage more deeply
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The foundations can be used in all relationships - including family members and at work
