Relationship anxiety therapist

Name: The Mindfull Practice
Address: High Street, Old, ENG, BH15 1BT, GB
Telephone: 07770 977587

Relationship healing for everyone

There are so many ways relationships cause us anxiety, conflict and confusion. What is the best relationship therapy path? Many clients tell me that they don't have the money or time counselling and psychotherapy approaches that takes many months, or even years - their relationship won't last that long! They want a focused, goal-oriented, effective relationship therapy approach - practical tools and quick, impactful results. Some clients want to work on relationship issues but their partner won't commit to couple therapy. Does this sounds like you? Become truly connected to the people that matter most. Healing relationships starts with healing ourselves.

What is relationship anxiety

What is relationship anxiety?

Relationship anxiety is not a word many know, yet it's something we all struggle with at some point or other. Relationships cause considerable conflict, anxiety and trauma. It doesn't discriminate between gender, culture, age or disability. Yet conflict is normalised in our society and divorce common place - we expect this relationships to be a war zone. We ignore triggers such as insomnia, over eating or another addiction, confusion and overwhelm, loneliness, being sick, depression or migraines. It can make us so ill that we can't go to work or get out of bed.

Do you recognise any of these common signs?

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Love - the addiction we can't escape

In today’s quick-fix society, relationships are often treated like disposable commodities. With dating apps offering endless possibilities, it’s easy to jump from one connection to the next, blaming our unhappiness on the partner and ignoring the part we played. The mindset of “it’s my way or the highway” has become all too common, leaving many relationships abandoned without real effort to repair them.

But here’s the truth: when we move on to a new relationship, the same issues often follow us. Research shows that unresolved challenges—be it communication breakdowns, trust issues, or emotional baggage—resurface time and again, no matter who we’re with. Changing partners without addressing the root of our struggles can create a cycle of dissatisfaction and missed opportunities for growth.

Understanding the addictive nature of love is key to breaking free from this cycle. Love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a biological drive for connection, comfort, and survival. The rush of falling in love can cloud our judgment, pushing us to seek the highs while avoiding the hard work of maintaining a relationship. But real fulfillment comes from addressing the deeper issues, building resilience, and fostering meaningful connections that last.

The MindFull Practice helps you break free from this pattern by offering a swift, effective approach to understanding your role in relationships, healing underlying challenges, and rebuilding stronger, healthier connections. With the right tools, you can transform your relationship dynamics and rediscover the joy of lasting love.

'Love's Closing the Door'

"I stand on the edge, unsure of my ground,

Wondering if you’ll catch me else I'll spiral down.

The past it still haunts... shadows fatally near,

I reach for your hand, then recoil out of fear.

Yours eyes reflect safety, but my heart's so unsure

I can't hazard this leap, love's now closing the door."

Nathelie

Meet Me

Whether you’re struggling with a relationship that is on the rocks, recovering from a divorce or breakup, or seeking to rediscover joy in your connections second time around, I'm here to help you navigate anxiety and find your path to healing.

I am Nathelie, a relationship therapist, CBT hypnotherapist and hypnojourney mentor. I guide clients through the anxiety bog, showing them how to rebuild trust, rework sabotage patterns, minimise relationship conflict, heal from narcissistic abuse or deal with compulsive behaviours triggered by relationship anxiety, such as emotional eating . I advocate short term therapy for relationship transformation. Please read my client testimonials and have a look at my accreditations.

I offer remote sessions worldwide or face to face therapy session in my clinic in Poole.

Nathelie Tudberry a relationship CBT hypnotherapist

My Treatment approach

Transformational healing in 6-sessions

I offer a dynamic, creative and collaborative smorgasbord tailoured to each client.. My 3-step blended treatment approach is structured to deliver swift, direct and effective results focusing on 1. reshaping the mind, 2. emotional regulation, and 3. accepting what we cannot change through living mindfully. Over the course of six sessions, you will gain clarity, emotional balance and tools for lasting change. blend research backed approaches, such as cognitive and behavioural therapy (CBT) and Gottman techniques (powerful relationship communication tools) with emotionally dynamic smorgasbord of integrative tools - acceptance & commitment (ACT) techniques, hypnojourneying and internal family systems (IFS). This holistic approach is crafted to empower you to heal relationships quickly.

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The power of hypnosis and potency of theta brain waves

Embedded in my therapy approach is the science of hypnosis and power of theta brain waves. Research in neuroscience has identified that the brain operates in different wave patterns: high frequency beta wave state - associated with busy, active thinking but also overanalysing, racing thoughts, hypervigilence and agitation, whilst and low frequency theta wave state - associated with ight sleep, daydreaming and meditation. The theta wave state also correlates associated with a natural state of deep relaxation, creativity memory consolidation and heightened suggestibility.

Studies using EEG (electroencephalogram) show that during hypnosis, brain activity shifts from the busy beta waves to slower, calmer theta waves, enabling powerful introspection and behavioral change. In this state, the conscious mind quiets, making it an ideal environment for hypnosis to work as we are malleable, open, receptive and detached - keen to harness our imagination, our creativity and heightened intuition. Here we are better able to talk to and integrate our emotions. This is why hypnosis is so effective for reducing anxiety, changing habits and enabling swift personal transformation.

What relationship anxiety issues do I typically handle?

Jealousy / Trust

How to stop being jealous? What causes jealousy in relationships?

Sabotage

Why do I sabotage my relationships? How can I stop self sabotaging relationships?

Commitment Issues

How to commit to a new relationship? Why won't may partner plan for the future?

Conflict

How does unresolved conflict affect a relationship? What are the common sources of conflict?

Treatment journeys

Treatment journeys are blended treatment paths specifically tailoured for each client. They swiftly reshape thoughts, regulate emotions and so bring clients back into balance.

I offer a selection of journeys to treat relationship anxiety as well as a selection of journeys that can help you improve your relationship by dealing with underlying conditions, such as anxiety or depression. I also treat emotional eating and other compulsive or addictive behaviour that can be caused by relatioship anxiety.

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Relationship journeys

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1. RELATIONSHIP CONFLICT

*Resolve Communication Blocks*

Living in a war zone? Use Gottman tools, to explore gentle startups. Learn how love tokens can enable you to grow together and quickly transform your relationship.

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2. JEALOUSY & TRUST DEMONS:

*Finding Freedom*

Stuggling to trust or can't open up? Perhaps you're battling the jealousy monster that can never have enough certainty. Reshape your mind to gain freedom and peace.

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3. RELATIONSHIP SABOTAGE:

*Heal the Saboteur Within*

The internal saboteur is often well hidden and highly destructive. Use CBT to root out the pattern and hypnojourney to integrate and heal this part of you.

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4. COMMITMENT ISSUES:

*Rebuild Connection*

Fear of rejection can fuel insecurity and overwhelm which can stop us entering into relationships or committing to the long term. CBT helps us foster a deeper connection and more stable relationship and find the courage to love.

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5. DIVORCE ANXIETY:

*Gain Inner Resilience*

Relationship breakup often leads to increased hostility, confusion and overwhelm - especially when there are children involved. I can offer blended therapy and support as a therapist and ex solicitor.

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6. NARCISSISTIC ABUSE:

*Steps to Recovery*

Coping with a coercive partner can be confusing mind game, for some, terrifying. It can lead to mental health decline and self sabotage. Learn how to rebuild resilience and ultimately heal.

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Relationship Journeys

Related treatment journeys that will improve your relationships

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Emotional regulation journeys

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1. ANXIETY DISORDERS:

*Heal Anxiety & Love Deeper*

Stress, depression and anxiety can co-exist with relationship anxiety. Healing this alongside your relationship gives love the very best chance.

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2. EMOTIONAL EATING:

*Break free from compulsions*

Emotional eating is one of the most common compulsive consequences of relationship anxiety. Break free from sugar addiction and find your freedom.

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3. PANIC DISORDERS:

*Stop the Rollercoster*

Panic disorder add more stress to our relationships. Avoidance and unpredictable behaviour confuses and isolate. Learn how to stop the attacks today...

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NEED HELP WITH PANIC RIGHT NOW?

TOP TIP

Being in a relationship can sometimes trigger overwhelming anxiety. For some, emotions hijack our thoughts, creating a whirlwind of fear, doubt, and insecurity. You might feel trapped in a spiral of panic - questioning everything, dissociating, or feeling like you’re losing control and you may be experience some frightening sensations, such as a racing heart, sweating, feeling faint and dizzy or even being sick. There's help available right now

👉 Visit my Panic Page for top tips to manage anxious thoughts.

👉 Download my free Panic Audio to soothe your mind and take the first step toward recovery today.

Take action now to break free from the grip of anxiety and create the peaceful, fulfilling relationship you deserve.

Panic Page

"'I got divorced really young and was scared of making the same mistake again. I started to look for the wrong things. Nathelie helped me focus my values and priorities and now I am looking forward to getting engaged with the most amazing guy !"

Niss, Marrakech